You know what really gets on my nerves? The people who make posts saying they want to be in an LDR cos they think it would be ‘cute’ or ‘more romantic’ and ask to find a long-distance boyfriend/girlfriend. Well guess what honey, it don’t work like that!
First of all, long distance isn’t a choice, it’s something you wait out until you can be with your significant other. I guarantee it if you ask any of us who are actually in an LDR, we would all say wholeheartedly that we absolutely would prefer to close the distance and have our significant other nearby. Is the community as a whole not going on about that every minute of every day?
Secondly, long-distance requires a massive emotional commitment. You can’t just turn it on and off whenever it may strike your fancy. No. You have to really be willing to deal with everything that comes with it: the good, the bad, and the ugly.
For though you may think long-distance is cute and romantic, the harsh reality is that they suck. It really is one of the most painful things you will ever go through. Imagine a blunt rusty nail. Now imagine the Atlantic Ocean slowly driving that blunt rusty nail through your innermost core while your significant other looks on helplessly just out of arm’s reach. It’s not enough to kill you, but it’s the most effective torture device ever invented, enough to drive you mad. The nail is driven, removed, and redriven incessantly. It can be soothed by the other, yes, but not indefinitely.
And this is one of the things that make LDRs look bad. One of the common negative comments posed towards LDRs is that we were just desperate or deliberately looking for someone. No, we happened to meet someone amazing by chance, yes, even if over the Internet, and fell for them just as if it had happened in person and then decided that waiting for them would be worth the risk. We do it because a sincere love forms, not the desire for a fling or a label.
An LDR is not easy, and it’s not always sweet and fluffy. So stop and think about what you’re asking for and if you’re really up for the full commitment.